Are You Scaring Your Man Away?

Women often put pressure on a man directly or indirectly. Are you a woman who sends a man running? Do you. . .

· Want a man to make your life better or financially more secure?
· Pursue a man intensely as if you’re going to die if he’s not there!
· Try to get a man to stop spending so much time with his friends?
· Have low self-esteem and need him to help you improved it?

The Difference between Envy and Jealousy

Most people think that envy and jealousy are the same. On the contrary they are different. Envy occurs when a person lacks another person’s superior quality, achievement, or possession, and desires it, by contrast, occurs in the context of a close relationship when a person fears losing a loved one to a rival or a relationship that is important to one’s sense of self. And since it involves the loss of a personal relationship, it’s usually more intense than envy. Both envy and jealousy spring from a lack of self-acceptance, inner security and trust that God will enable you to have and achieve just what He wants you to have. Envy is a refusal to be satisfied with God’s gift of grace to you.

Jealousy and envy can occur at the same time. For example, when you’re romantic partner gives attention to an attractive rival, you may feel both jealous of that attention and envious of the rival for being attractive.

Here are their differences:

ENVY
· Feeling of inferiority
· Longing
· Resentment of circumstances
· Ill feelings toward envied person often accompanied by guilt about these feelings
· Motivation to improve
· Desire to possess the attractive rival’s qualities
· Disapproval of feelings

JEALOUSY
· Fear of loss
· Anxiety
· Suspicion or anger about betrayal
· Low self-esteem and sadness over loss
· Uncertainty and loneliness
· Fear of losing an important person to an attractive other
· Distrust

 

Are People Avoiding You?

 

If you notice people would rather be anywhere else than be with you, it’s maybe because you’ve fallen into these traps.

· You think you’re a loser. If you give that impression, people will believe it. Maximize your best points and people will respond to you.

· You’re trying too hard. Are you putting on an act? Are you conscious of projecting a happy and hyper image, although that is not how you feel? Remember, pretenders never last. People always see through disguises.

· You lie about yourself. If you do, then you’re attracting pity, not empathy.

· You only want to be friends with the cool crowd. If you’re not “in” with them, why are you so sure that they’re the only ones worth knowing?

· You talk at people, not to them. Give other people the chance to talk. You’ll be appreciated for your attentiveness.

When You’re Perfectionist

 

Are you obstructing progress because you insist on perfecting every detail of even the most routine tasks? Perfection doesn’t necessarily result in a better product. Here are some ways to beat this bad habit.

Recognize appropriate limits. Evaluate what really is necessarily to do a task “right.

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Delegate wisely. If you give others step-by-step instructions on how you want a task done, you’ll waste time and stifle their initiative. Instead, describe the result that you want and check with your subordinates regularly to see that they’re on track.

Balance costs and results. If you compare the cost of a good result with the cost of perfection, you may find that you can’t justify the added time and effort. Ask yourself if you’re perfecting your work for yourself and for your company. If the former, reconsider your approach.